Our beliefs define who are we, what we do in life, what type of friends we have what religion we are. Beliefs define the very core of us. It doesn’t have to be this way at all. Are you clumsy person? – Maybe you have a belief that you are which makes it so, are you stupid? – Maybe you have to change your belief to that of ‘I am intelligent’. Can it really be that easy – YES it can.
Looking at your current beliefs
The amount of beliefs we have about ourselves and the world is phenomenal. Think about a simple act such as taking the dog for a walk: your unconscious mind is thinking about the following beliefs:
I believe it is too cold, I’ll wear a jacket
I believe that jacket does not go with my jeans I will wear another one
I believe I have to look good so I’ll just brush my hair
I believe I might look a little sad taking my dog out alone I will go for a friend
I believe my friend thinks I am too loud I will quieten down a bit
I believe I am loyal so I will tell my friend what somebody said about them today
I believe I am a good friend
I believe I am wearing the wrong shoes
I believe this lead for the dog is a bit gnawed I believe I will need to change it
The above is before we’ve even taken the dog out. Our beliefs dominate our lives but we don’t really think about them and how they limit our lives.
I heard a client say the other day that she always finds the wrong men, the ones who treat her badly. This is because this woman believes she can only attract men like that, so she therefore thinks she will get no other type of men so she dates them anyway. The more you believe something the more you will attract that belief. It is true of anything.
Believe your way to a higher IQ
If you believe you are a bit thick, guess what? You are. If you keep saying this to yourself, when you receive a piece of new information your brain will tell you ‘you’re a bit thick there’s no point in trying to comprehend what was just said, don’t even listen, in fact I’ll just tune out intellectual stuff so you don’t need to bother with it’. You have instructed your brain to be thick.
If you believe you are not a funny person then you never will be funny. Do you ever meet people who are just naturally funny? Everything they say is funny? That’s because they believe they are funny and they act accordingly. Their brain tells them what facial expressions will elicit the funniest response, their brain has told them what tone is the funniest, their brain has told them what gestures to make. One of my favourite comedians, Billy Connelly, is one of the funniest men on the planet and he told a story whereby he used his humour to get him out of difficult situations and how everyone reacted to his stories and he refined this year on year. If you want to be funny, think funny and it will come.
Here are five simple ways to change a belief:
- Know what you believe. – You have to know that what you believe about yourself. So ask yourself the question do I believe I am [replace with a belief].
- Decide to change the belief. Simple.
- Become congruent with the belief: Whenever you come across a situation that requires you to be congruent with your new belief make sure you reinforce the new belief. For example if your new belief is to be intelligent and you get speaking to a maths professor tell yourself you are intelligent and can hold your own in this conversation. Tell yourself in every situation where you believe intelligence is needed.
- Test your new belief. Push your comfort zone. If you want to believe you are more intelligent put yourself in situations where this belief is tested for example taking a subject at college which you previously considered out of your league.
- Be patient: Some beliefs are more deeply entrenched than others so some beliefs may take a little longer to change. However believe they will change and they will.